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Sep

Would it be silly to get married by a JP before our wedding date?

   Posted by: Low Cost Auto Insurance Guru   in Insurance

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17 comments so far

M H
 1 

It sounds like a good idea to me … why not do it?

September 25th, 2008 at
Just Me
 2 

Yes, it would be quite a dumb thing to do.

September 28th, 2008 at
malissarusher
 3 

Well you have already did almost every thing that married couple do so why not get married and then have the ceremony later.

September 29th, 2008 at
Victoria
 4 

If it is that important to both of you, go ahead and do it now, and have the ceremony for your friends and family. Its your life, do whatever you feel is right for your family.

September 29th, 2008 at
amasmomma05
 5 

yes…me and my husband had a very small ceremony with a pastor (I was pregnant with our first son and we wanted to be married before he got here). In our tenth year, we are going to have the biggest wedding bash ever!!!!

September 29th, 2008 at
DefiantRican
 6 

What you are asking does not sound silly at all. What you can do is have the “legal marriage” with just the two of you. It is a romantic moment for you to. Enjoy it alone. Then on your wedding date, you get “married” with friends and family. Sort of like to share in the joyous occasion. Good luck in your marriage. I wish you the best.

October 1st, 2008 at
Sarge1572
 7 

if there is a significant delay before the wedding, then do it.

My wife and I got married in Vegas and a year later we had a “blessing” at her parents church in the south of England.

If it’s like a week then why bother, but if it’s months and months then sure, why not. The minister doesn’t care. He’s still getting paid. The ceremony is for your family and friends more than for you. Plus you get “stuff”!!!!!

October 3rd, 2008 at
cryingsolo
 8 

If you love each other and feel things would be more simple if you was to get married now…then do it. I married my husband in the court house and later had our wedding.

October 5th, 2008 at
diva_m3
 9 

You can get married now and if you want have a reception later.

October 8th, 2008 at
melouofs
 10 

No matter what type of wedding you have, the legal date is it…anything performed after that date is strictly a vow renewal, and your minister will only perform it as such.

October 11th, 2008 at
aminwiththeoutcrowd
 11 

You didn’t say how much earlier you might marry and the wait date? Here is what I can tell you, if you love each other enough, the way you get married means nothing. It is that you gave your vows, under God, and will see them through. The way the ceremony is perfomed is secondary, only to what you have wanted as a couple.

My husband, when I married him, was active military and off on assignment when we got serious. Long story short, we loved each other enough to do the short JP thing and thought we would do the other later. Never needed or wanted to! Really, I always wanted a wedding but 16 years after marrying him I don’t see the big deal. We are happy and in love with a 14 year old child to boot! Doesnt get better.

Just be in love and comfortable with him and it will all work out! Best Luck!

October 14th, 2008 at
maigen_obx
 12 

Normally I would say it’s silly, but you have some valid reasons. Go for it.

October 15th, 2008 at
greeneyes_bjb
 13 

It does seem a little weird to be getting married two months before your wedding. And for about $10, you can get an updated driver’s license with your new name (not just the update card). It’s the same as if you lost it – you just pay for a new one.

I guess I’ve just never really understood the point of getting married and then having a wedding ceremony later. You stand up there and say the vows and everything, but legally, you’re not getting married. You might as well just get married now and then skip the ceremony and then just have a reception in two months. Otherwise, family and friends are showing up to watch you and your spouse remind each other that yes, you still want to remain married – it’s a nice sentiment, but maybe not worth a whole huge elaborate ceremony.

October 17th, 2008 at
Theodolite
 14 

“Stray Dog” and I were married for 21 years ago, this coming August before a JP, and we had a fun cerimony, midieval style with a bit of camp and giggles, a year later for all our friends and family.

In some states you’d already be common law married (Kansas and Oklahoma for example). You already have plans to formalize your relationship, the church wedding is only delayed by availability of the site. There is absolutely no rule that says you can only have one cerimony. Think of the JP as just taking care of the business aspect of things… You have some compelling reasons for going the JP route, so what are you waiting for?

Many happy years together! I hope you are as happy together as Stray and I are, and my parents, and my grandparents… all combined. That’s a lot of happiness… and strength. ;-)

Some advice: The whole idea of an argument is to solve a problem. Always keep the problem the focus of the argument. Always keep your voice down and never interupt… if you do, you might miss what the other has to say, and by golly they have as much of a chance of having a good idea as you do! Sometimes the best solution is a compromise. Above all, always respect the mind you love. Many happy solutions together!

October 17th, 2008 at
hotelmajor
 15 

Ok You 2 have been paying seperate health, dental, life, auto etc, for this long then why take the special day and it’s meaning and throw it away with a JP ceremony? You are really only talking about 3 or 4 months of the seperate premiums anyway? (your actual ceremony will cost more than that!)

As for your driver’s liscense (keep in mind 40 bucks tops at the max)

Bottom line if you really were that concerned about money then you would have gone to the JP a long time ago. Since you are getting married during the middle of the year All of the auto and home owners insurance should be able to be prorated and credited back to your account for the difference.

Be honest with yourself if you have always dreamed of a church wedding then a JP wedding will never be the same. You might have the ceremony like you planned but, in your heart you will know that it is not really the day you got married.

Are you really willing to give up your dream wedding and all that it means to save a few hundred dollars?

October 20th, 2008 at
Lolita
 16 

It defets the whole purpose kinda….you wouldnt need the real wedding anymore.

October 21st, 2008 at
Joycee
 17 

No most people do it so they can have who they want to perform the ceremony at the church for performance reasons

October 22nd, 2008 at

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